FEELINGS

I’m Not Okay…….And That’s Absolutely Normal

What is it about not being okay that we shy away from? We hide from everyone else. Like it’s not common. Like it doesn’t happen often.

What is it about not being 100% that’s hard to confess? What is it about not knowing what’s wrong or how you’re feeling but just feeling down in the dumps and not good.

How are you? I’m not fine today.

Why? What’s wrong?

I don’t know. I can’t explain it. I feel sad. I feel like crying. I feel like just wrapping myself in a ball and staying in bed all day.

Maybe if we claimed it more often we would be forced to face it confidently as often as it comes so that we are familiar with the signs and signals and we learn how to counter it. Or at least be prepared enough to know what to do when it comes. Maybe by hiding it all the time, we deprive ourselves the chance to figure it out. To face it daringly and to address it appropriately.

What can I do to stop feeling this way?

As bizarre as it sounds, and I know you won’t feel like it in the moment, but staying with God helps a lot.

Sometimes that service that you don’t want to go to, those people you don’t want to be around, that’s where the solution lies. Maybe you don’t have to articulate it properly. Maybe the solution is not too complicated and is as simple as just being around people. Stepping out of your room. Showering and putting on that worship session, or that sermon you don’t feel like.

Because it’s just that, FEELINGS. Valid Feelings. But feelings nonetheless. And with feelings, it’s constantly changing. It’s fickle in that way. It can be so many things in one day. You can go from happy to sad in an instant. And so these solutions are to help switch the valve in you from sad to not so bad. It may not go all the way, with God it does go all the way I can guarantee, but it will definitely cause a change no matter how small it seems, it definitely goes a long way.

With God, I can promise that it is gradual but definite. You will surely feel better!

So this is a message to myself. And a message to someone else.

Today’s not a good day. But it’s normal to have not so good days. It happens to everyone. I implore you, no matter how much you feel like staying in it, please don’t 🥺, you can feel better even in this not so good day. Please do that thing you don’t feel like doing. Take that step towards feeling better no matter how hard it seems like at that moment.

You will feel better.

This too shall pass.

When it does, remember how it felt. Remember that you felt this way. Don’t feel any type of way about it. It helps to understand it for what it is. So when it does happen again, you start to build the muscle needed to combat it. It’s knowledge that is important.

You’ll be better soon….

How are you today? Honestly….